"Hard choices, easy life; easy choices, hard life" – Jerzy Gregorek.
Whatever this may be;
The kind of work we choose to spend most of our waking hours of life on.
The food we eat. The contents we consume.
How do we spend our free time, and with whom?
What about our life partners?
Among other things, do we sometimes wonder if we're striving to make the best choices we possibly can under our control? Or do we settle with expedient choices in order to feel familiar and safe within our cozy comfort zone? Do that often and it will become our faith; the operating system that counteracts our personal growth.
Do you find yourself thinking every day that this is what you want? This is it, where you are now, and where you want to be in life is here in this comfort zone. And you choose this because you prefer comfort and security over distress.
Choosing expedient options is a way of avoiding challenges, and risks, or stepping outside of one's comfort zone. While it's natural to seek comfort and security, it's important to also recognize when such choices are limiting your potential for growth and development.
Do you realize what are the things you're trading off with the comfort and security that are being pursued?
What you're choosing for your one precious life, is to spend it in perpetual mediocre, and you are doing fine in there.
You deny that all along, the inner voice that you've been hearing isn't real. The yearning to connect with that special someone, whose identity remains a mystery is a fantasy that would never be fulfilled.
And if that's the case, read no further– I won't judge you.
But, you'll be ignoring the higher calling– as Joseph Cambell's famous "Hero's Journey" is referred to as– Refusal of the Call".
“They fear their higher self, because when it speaks, it speaks demandingly.” – Friedrich Nietzsche.
You want to stay put in your comfort zone which proved many times that it failed to take you forward to your goals– until eventually, you let go of all of them. You can give up your dreams and find yourself spiraling downward to eternal discontent, frustration, and perpetual misery...
OR.
You can fight the urge, face your fear, and overcome the old thought pattern that pulls you back from that best chance of living in a more superior manner.
Resist the resistance.
Resistance comes in many forms, and they keep changing in order to keep us unaware. It basically is a psycho-behavioral pattern of habits, our go-to things that soothe our souls when it's pushed toward the border of our comfort zones.
Fear, excuses, rationalization, depression, procrastination, laziness; you know the drill. Unless you learn to identify and overcome it, a life of mediocrity will be your destiny.
Don't think you can blame it on the external factors. These are the things that arise from within us, you must be aware of these feelings when they arise. Stop blaming life, playing a victim role, and condemning faith.
You are a total sum of your decisions– remember? If you decide to sink back to doing what's comfortable but never brings results– all the time, there will be no growth.
And that's all on you.
Now ask yourself, are you ready to actualize your highest possibilities? Are you ready to work hard against all the adversities, discomfort, and perhaps distress, to bring your full potential into reality? Are you ready to leave your ordinary world of safety to begin the quest of a Hero?
"The cave you fear to enter holds the truth you seek." – Joseph Campbell.
To live in a service of our higher calling, we must center ourselves around productive work that we find challenging but intriguing. The more afraid we are of the work (and this would mostly be, inner work, the work to approach the realm of the unconscious) the more certain that this is the calling we cannot refuse.
Utilize your fear to direct you on the path of self-actualizing. Know what work you need to accomplish, then go after it relentlessly, and don't allow resistance to lure you from your life mission. Overcome the temptation to resist, observe your awareness to stay in the present moment, and keep at the work.
"Turning pro is like kicking a drug habit or stopping drinking. It's a decision, a decision to which we must re-commit every day. Each day, the professional understands, he will wake up facing the same demons, the same Resistance, the same self-sabotage...the difference is that now he will not yield to those temptations. He will have mastered them, and will continue to master them." – Steven Pressfield. Turning Pro.
Feel the fear and do it anyway.
Identify your purpose and translate that into actions.
Spend your time on the work that matters.
Make time to learn, and master what you need.
Turn your strengths into superpowers.
Utilize fear to locate the Northpoint of your journey.
Then tackle your toughest decisions with confidence.
Trust that you can, and you will.
Happy finding the person you knew you would become.
